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sneasel on pogo's evening beach background goes so hard wtf

2 weeks ago

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@jupy silly is good :3

14 hours ago

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@yep F

20 hours ago

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@worsethansoap i counted... 17, but i don't feel like going through again to double check.
also i lost my shit at "promised netherlands" lmao

23 hours ago

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@zeek i'm waiting on three rn so i feel it

1 day ago

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@yotsu a good example of this catastrophizing behaviour is something i think i talked about on piki before.
the stereotype in trans communities is that trans dudes pass within 6mo-1y, always, & if u don't u basically failed transition. i didn't pass properly till i was almost 5y in & i had a lot of trans ppl tell me i was basically hopeless - but my cis guy friends were like "bro puberty took years for us, ofc it's going to take years for u too"! what other trans ppl treated as a tragedy was something perfectly reasonable in the eyes of cis ppl - those cis friends didn't understand how tf the narrative of "all trans guys pass in a yr max" even started when a cis man takes 5+yrs to go from looking like a lil boy to looking like a man

2 days ago

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@yotsu there's also an element of... catastrophizing? in some trans communities, where someone might feel like they'll never pass properly or get hung up on something they feel is going to be an obstacle to them passing (it's very rarely as serious as they describe/picture it). they get hung up on wanting to "fix" that at all costs & depending on the community they're in they might be surrounded by ppl who'll enable them (often bc those people are in a similar boat & equally desperate to "fix" themselves too). that's where i think a lot of the desire for more extreme/ott surgeries comes in... this is why i think it's important not to stay in trans support communities forever (basically, as my psychologist told me, "go in, get what u need, leave") bc eventually u can fall into in this downward spiral of "this is the one surgery that's going to fix me!!" if ur not careful

2 days ago

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@yotsu i had a bisalp (fallopian tube removal) done ~3y ago & a lot of ppl thought it was transition-related bc the logical "next step" after top surgery was some flavour of bottom surgery, but it was something i wanted long before & outside the context of transition (i would've gotten it regardless of what my gender turned out to be). it confused a lot of ppl that i didn't go for a hysto (uterus removal) instead - somehow not wanting a hugely invasive surgery when a much more minor procedure had the same outcome i wanted was something they hadn't even considered? the steps to transition were long treated as a one-size-fits-all deal that everyone would do exactly the same way but in recent yrs some ppl are finally starting to realise u can do things differently & that doesn't invalidate ur gender or how u perceive it. i have friends who have done hrt but no surgery, some the opposite, some social transition only, etc - the end goal is to be comfortable in ur body & that's the only thing that should matter

2 days ago

raichu

@yotsu as a trans person i honestly felt/feel that the trans community was far worse to me than the ppl outside of it (irl especially, online was a bit better). there are def trans ppl who get surgery & such of their own volition but when it comes to the more extensive plastic surgery & etc. i do feel there's an element of group pressure to some of it. u also see this a lot w/ non-binary ppl where the expectation is u won't get taken seriously unless u look a very specific flavour of androgynous... the litmus test in the online communities i was in was basically "would u still want this medical procedure if u were alone on a deserted island w/ no external pressure to look/behave a certain way & no expectation or even concept of gender?"
i believe everyone should just be allowed to live how they want w/o pressure to perform gender a certain way, regardless whether they're cis or trans or w/e tbh. if u want hrt or surgery go for it, but do it bc u want to, not bc someone else says it's "necessary"

2 days ago

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@zeek my bf has a smart tv that's a few yrs old & has never seen the internet & i think that's the only reason it hasn't become fkn annoying yet (all our streaming goes through the ps5 or the cracked fire stick). it's also a sony so the bar is prob set a bit higher on that front... but still. pretty much everyone i know w/ a smart tv is like "this is fkn bullshit my tv doesn't need to connect to the internet" & i hate that we now have 0 dumb tv options bc corporations decided we all needed smart tvs... honestly smart appliances in general can all fuck off forever. also if my tv played ads for orange man i would immediately yeet it out the window

2 days ago